* Think “How important is it?” Look at in the context of what impact it will/may have on my life in five years time.
* Move – go for a walk, do a small job such as putting the rubbish out, stacking the dishes in the dishwasher etc.
* Consider if it (what is stressing me) is real, imaginary, definite or only just slightly possible. It helps put some perspective on the situation.
* Remember the “Serenity Prayer” and accept the things I cannot change but take small steps to change the things I can.
* Call up a friend for a chat. I don’t have to talk about my stress but if it is a good friend, it will probably come out in conversation anyway.
* Write it down. My preference is to write it down (physically with a pen or pencil) and then destroy it afterwards. That frees me up to write whatever is on my mind without worrying about offending others or giving away my secrets.
* Go to the beach and watch the waves roll in and roll out – I find that very soothing.
*Mind maps work well for me too. I have a good-sized piece of paper and I randomly jot down everything I can think of that is impacting on my life at present – good and bad. Sometimes then it is easier to picture where I may be out of balance.
* Be kind and compassionate to myself. I need to “get off my own back” and stop the judgements about what I should do and what I should be. Realise that I am doing the best I can with what I have got.
* Be grateful. I find it so easy to take my comfortable life for granted. I am reminded of this while reading a book about World War I and the terrible tragedies of that time. I have NOTHING to complain about in comparison.
* Do something for someone else – a random act of kindness. This can be a tonic and restore the “feel good” hormones and again bring new perspective.
* Let to and go with the flow – this is my favourite when I manage to achieve it. I stop trying to control the outcome and accept that what will be, will be!
* Examine if my ego is the problem and if that is the case – commit to letting go of worrying about what people with think of me. I can never know what others are thinking anyway.
* Check to see if I am hungry, tired or thirsty. Be aware of my food and fluid intakes as they can impact on my mood and stress level.
*Keep a sense of humour and lay off from watching too much bad news on the TV.
*Schedule time to do fun things, such as a picnic or some singing.
* Finally for today, if all else fails, say nothing and do nothing and you will hopefully stay out of trouble 🙂