Is the old saying true…”It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”? I have always held that to be true. A life without the love of another can be very lonely.
I have been in love a few times in my life and at times the love was lost. It was painful in the aftermath. In reading “The Consolations of Philosophy” by Alain de Botton, I discovered Arthur Schopenhauer who was born in 1788. His mother is said to have complained of “…her son’s passion for pondering on human misery”.
It was when I read about Schopenhauer that I came to understand a little bit more about love and suffering. He asks why we are so shocked and pained by a broken heart when really the survival of our species is dependent on us falling in love and reproducing. This is no small quest and it helped me to see what an enormous drive that the need for love and partnership is and yes, why we are so hurt when it doesn’t work out.
I have been through times in my life when I thought I would never love anyone ever again. It was just too hard, too painful and too overwhelmingly disturbing.
However, I did find love again and I am so very thankful for the experience – even though there is the risk that one day I may face loss again!
To love and be loved is worth the risk!