WordPress prompt – write about a Goldilocks experience

"The Three Bears", Arthur Rackham's ...

“The Three Bears”, Arthur Rackham’s illustration to English Fairy Tales, by Flora Annie Steel (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If you don’t know the story of Goldilocks and the Three Bears, it can be read on Wikipedia by pressing here

This story was one of my favourites as a little girl. Being the youngest in a household of seven, taught me a lot about empathy with those at the bottom of the pecking order 🙂

Goldilocks is trying things out to see what suits her best (what is “just right”) – the porridge, the chair and the bed of the smallest bear – much to his alarm!

I have “tried out” lots of things in my life, such as: places to live; friends and partners; jobs/careers; hobbies; fashions; food and diets; and belief systems. Many times I have strongly believed what was right for me, however, as I moved through the decades of my life so far, what suited me at 20 didn’t suit me at 30! We are constantly changing and growing and our needs and desires change as well.

Recently I read a book called “The Confidence Gap – from fear to freedom” by Dr Russ Harris (published by Penguin). This books explores values and goals and helped me to find what is important to me today. I found that what I value most includes:

* respect

* trust

* love

* authenticity

* honesty

* being able to contribute

* self acceptance

* friendliness

Just like Goldilocks, I can say “this feels just right” for me!

Lorraine

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Foreign

We recently had a lovely couple of days away in Albany, Western Australia. While there we visited the Western Australian Museum.

I found something that fits the category of FOREIGN very well! It is a piece of Mundrabilla Meteorite.

Thanks to Mr Albert John Carlyle, who received an Order of Australia Medal (OAM) for his efforts in finding meteorites, this piece is on public display in Albany, Western Australia.

It weighs about 3.5 tons and is aged about 4,600 million years.

Now THAT is foreign 🙂

Lorraine

WordPress topic for today – One thing I hope others never say about me

I don’t like my integrity to be under a cloud

SHE CAN’T BE TRUSTED!

It is really important to me that other people trust me. I had a great working environment once where the Manager and I were on the same wavelength and everything was going swimmingly.

Unfortunately she became ill and was replaced. The new Manager was a real control freak and questioned me about everything thing I did and about my motivations for doing it! I found it really hard to take and moved on to another job :-).

Every now and again we find people in our lives who we don’t understand. Such is life eh? We are all unique individuals.

Lorraine

The most precious thing I ever lost…

WordPress are once again providing some topics to help bloggers with ideas to write about. Today’s prompt is “What is the most precious thing you have ever lost?”

I haven’t lost many THINGS over the years. I do remember losing a solitaire diamond once while out looking in a furniture store. I wasn’t too bothered about it. Material things can usually be replaced – maybe not right away but eventually! I did get a new stone put in it but went for a fake one as it looks just as good as the real thing!

Things I lost as a child were usually soon forgotten. They were probably that old and battered that they found their way into the rubbish when I wasn’t looking.

I am a sentimental person but also very practical. I very strongly believe that we need to accept the things we cannot change. If something is lost, grieve for it and then get on with life. No-one can ever take our memories away from us though. We can hold fond memories close to our hearts.

I think it is fair to say that I can deal ok with losing most “things”. Losing people is much harder!

I lost my Uncle Roy in 2010. He was 93 years old. He and I were always close and he kept in touch with me consistently over the decades. As I reflect on the relationship we had, I realise he always accepted me as I was. I wasn’t a pretty child but he always treated like I was the prettiest girl in town. His affection for me was unconditional. He always took an interest in whatever our family were doing and was very supportive of my three lads.

And that was very precious…

Lorraine

What you think about kids in adult-oriented places?

WordPress presented a challenge today on a divisive issue – “what do we think about children being in adult-oriented places?”

Generally speaking, I think that children, if accompanied by a responsible adult, should be able to access any venue. I know this is a complex issue because no-one enjoys it when children misbehave in public, however if they don’t have the opportunity to learn, how will they ever know what is expected of them in public places.

OK – What does “children misbehaving” really mean? Obviously it will mean something different to everyone and even more so if there are diverse cultures involved.

What is a “responsible adult?”  Once again, we would have many different answers to that question – and who is right?

As someone who spent some time as the sole parent of three boys; we went to most places together. We didn’t go to 5 Star restaurants because we didn’t have that sort of money. I used to take the lads to a live music event (folk, classical etc)  each Sunday afternoon when they were quite young and they always behaved really well. They knew that after the concert we would spend some time in the play ground alongside the theater. They were used to attending church with me each week and so it wasn’t much different – as far as their behaviour was concerned.

There are places where people dread the idea of encountering young children – such as on a long flight or long bus journey. I say it is good to “live and let live!” I had to do a 1000km trip by bus once with the three boys and other passengers on the bus were really tough on us – it felt really crappy to be honest. Now I admit I do cringe a bit myself if I am seated near a young family on a long journey, however, I have empathy for them as well.

So, if children are not welcome in some scenarios, I think it is better made known up front. Don’t pretend to be a restaurant that wants my business and then put me in a corner out-of-the-way if I had my grandchildren with me. I think that some adults forget that they were once children and consider them to be another species altogether 🙂

So, what do you think?

cheers

Lorraine

 

 

In search of whales, again…

Today we went to Cape Naturaliste hoping to see some whales after our unsuccessful attempt last week. We started out at about 10.00am on a beautiful sunny Sunday morning.

The diverse vegetation was very colourful, especially against the backdrop of the blue sky and the ocean.

We could see almost 180 degrees of the Indian Ocean – an amazing sight. It was incredibly calm as well. The whales use the area as a nursery for their newborn calves before heading south in November/December.

We saw lots of evidence of whales – water spouting and big splashes of white water. We were satisfied that we “had seen some whales” and started to head back to our car. We took a wrong turn and were actually heading away from the direction of the cars for some time before we realised.

This extended our walk quite a bit but we had some great sightings of whale activity in that stretch.

We found our way back to the car and decided to have a coffee (I had brought a thermos of coffee with us) at the Castle Rock Beach we went to last week.

Just as we were about to leave my husband noticed some excited photographers nearby – YES, I really can say now that I have seen a whale in its natural environment  – and we weren’t even looking! I wasn’t quick enough to catch it on camera unfortunately!

Lorraine

One born every minute…

English: Group of children in a primary school...

(Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Have you seen the BBC program called “One Born Every Minute”? It is a real life experience in the maternity ward in an English hospital. There are expectant mums, dads, grandmas, sisters and other assorted relatives! The filming is pretty graphic so it is not for the faint-hearted.

I went through labour three times myself so I have empathy with the women in labour. It is a wondrous and terrifying event. So, why do we do it?

I think there is no doubt about the need to keep reproducing for the “survival of the species” but what do parents expect to get out of it in the long run? From my experience, the reality of having children is very different than the ‘romantic’ expectations. As they say…”your life will never be the same again!” And yet, I have no regrets whatsoever in having three children. I wouldn’t change it for the world.

Now I am in the role of a Grandma, I think how great it would have been to actually have the time and energy (and the ability to get a good night’s sleep) to put into being a great parent. What would you do differently if you had the opportunity to go back in time with lots of energy and enthusiasm? Or what are your ideals for when your time comes?

Here’s my idealistic view:

  • from the moment they were born and then every day I would tell them how much I love them unconditionally
  • I would seek out opportunities for them to experience all sorts of different environments (using all 5 senses)
  • I would focus on building self-confidence by encouraging them to be involved in sports or other activities to gain assurance of their strength – physically and mentally
  • Independence would be encouraged from early on
  • I would teach them resilience to deal with whatever life throws in their paths
  • Emotional intelligence – logical with the capacity to experience life in all its colours

You know, as I write this, I can’t help thinking how much young children can teach me – rather than the other way around. Children and young people have much more capacity to live in the moment, to not judge others, to see life clearly and fairly. I am also aware that I did the best I could with what I knew at the time.

I am very proud of who my sons are today 🙂 in spite of me learning on the job!

Lorraine

PS No children were harmed in the writing of this blog 🙂

Online vs real relationships?

 

I just read a blog written by a friend of mine,  discussing the benefits of having online relationships as compared to “real” relationships.

You can read the article If you click here.

I think Jacinta’s blog raises some excellent points and I hope you will have a quick look – it is easy and interesting reading and it will help Jacinta gain some leverage online!

There are as many types of online relationships to cater for different age groups and interests as with our “face to face ” relationships. I actually met my husband online nearly nine years ago. It moved from being an online friendship into a real relationship once we met face to face a few weeks later :-).

What I enjoy most about my online interactions is the meeting of minds. I don’t know what age you are or what nationality, religion or colour you are unless you say so. It doesn’t really matter. Sometimes the cultural difference can be a real point of interest as well. I love to hear about the lives of young mums and I also love to hear from older people and their perspectives and life experiences.

I also really enjoy connecting with people who think deeply and write about life issues/eternal questions. I love to read blogs that make me laugh. Photography bloggers are great too – they can say so much with a picture and just a few words :-).

I DO tend to think about some bloggers as my friends – I may only be one of hundreds (or thousands!) of their followers but I feel I have come to know a lot about them and their lives over time. Some people have disappeared and I wonder about them and hope they are ok – just having a blog free holiday – I hope so!

So what about you? What do you enjoy reading in the blogosphere? Do you think that we are MORE ourselves online or that we try to portray an image of who we want to be?  Anyone who has read my blog for a while will know that what you see is what you get! I like it that way.

Cheers

Lorraine