Defining moments

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Baby Boomers / Blog 2013 / Meaning of life and that stuff / Self acceptance / Wisdom
English: The Beatles wave to fans after arrivi...

English: The Beatles wave to fans after arriving at Kennedy Airport. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

For days I have tried to come up with something interesting to write about. Sometimes ideas come to me and I can’t wait to hit the keyboard. This week I have drafted a couple but I was not at all inspired. Even so, I am at it once again, hoping that once I make a start the words will come! Waiting, waiting, waiting….

This is a story about Father Jeffery, a Catholic Priest that encouraged a group of young students (Young Christian Students) to form a youth group in those heady days of the late 1960’s. The Beatles were BIG and we were in awe of them. Father Jeffery had led a very sheltered life and had no idea of how to deal with our outlandish ideas and aspirations. He did, however, organise us to take part in a regional get together with other YSC groups in our part of the State. I have vague memories of a attending a big meeting of students and somehow coming away from the meeting having achieved the position of President of our region. How did that happen?

In some ways I thought it was pretty cool. The next event was a joint social for all the students in the Region. We had to travel 40 miles to attend and fortunately one of group had a car and a driver’s licence so we all went in his car. The events are a bit foggy (you will soon realise why) but I remember going to a Chinese Restaurant for a meal before the social. I had been separated from the group for some reason but joined them a bit later.

To my surprise they had all been getting stuck into a bottle of whiskey. I was the only sober one there. I very quickly gave in to peer pressure and finished what was left in the bottle. I was about 14 or 15 then. Before long I was feeling violently ill and was in a bad way. I haven’t eaten Chinese Sweet and Sour Pork since that evening!

We still thought we could carry off the evening without being noticed. Mmm… that was a BIG ask! The rest of the night was a blur that was to leave me with a great sense of shame for many years to come. And Father Jeffery wasn’t too impressed either ;-). In fact he didn’t want anything to do with us after that event.

English: Cuisine of China, Zhuhai, Guangdong

English: Cuisine of China, Zhuhai, Guangdong (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Just this week I was thinking about some of the defining moments in my life and revisited the memory of that night. For a long time I believed that I couldn’t be trusted to take a position of leadership as a direct result of my actions on that night. With hindsight and compassion gained over the years I can see I was only a child, thrown into a situation that I was ill prepared for. This event should have NO power over my life today. My interpretation of that event has had a negative impact on my life in the past. Today I can choose to interpret things from a different perspective.

So, it works! Start writing and the ideas will come. That is why my tagline says that “If one wants to write, then one must write today”.




  1. Trish says

    I was with you but I definitely didn’t feel the same remorse. I thought Father Jeffrey was weird.

  2. I find that the best way to prime the pump is to just start writing . . . knowing that I can press “delete” if I make a wrong turn or land at a dead end.

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