It will pass …

In my life there are times when I experience intense emotions – sometimes good and sometimes not. I am sure we all do.  I have found that the secret to riding out these emotions is to try to remember the following:

  • My emotions are not me – they are but a tool or instrument in my experience of life
  • They will pass. Sometimes it feels like an eternity but just like the tides, my feelings ebb and flow and are forever changing – and that is OK!

This too shall pass

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Careful

When I bought this plant from a nursery a few years ago I was really disappointed because it fell into many pieces on the way home. All was not lost though. Every one of those pieces easily grew into a new plant. I try not to move them very often 🙂 and if I do, it is with great care.

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Tools to boost self esteem

Recently I wrote about dealing with negative feelings. It helps to have some tools or ideas to counteract them when they hit with full force. I developed this acronym a while ago and try to memorise it when I need some positive input. It is an acronym for the word CONFIDENCE and reminds me of what I am capable of or what I need to do to feel more confident.

C is for capable – I have the basic knowledge to do the task

O is for often – when I do something often I become more confident in my abilities.

N is for now – I need to focus on NOW and the task at hand.

F is for follow – I can follow instructions and directions rather than just guessing what is required.

I is for interest – if I have a genuine interest in what I am doing I am more likely to do it well.

D is for determination – if I am really determined to succeed, chances are that I will.

E is for elements –  I can break a task down to its smaller components and give full attention to each part.

N is for new – I need to be open-minded and curious about learning new tasks and that will get me there in the end.

C is for cheerfulness – if I approach the task with a cheerful attitude and be friendly to those around me the job will seem a lot easier.

E is for effort – putting in an effort and a bit of hard work can produce good results.

If I experience self-doubt I try to recall the above suggestions however it doesn’t really matter if I can’t remember them because I just look for another positive word beginning with the same letter.

It works for me 🙂

I was thinking of a new one today based on the word WIMP. I sometimes accuse myself of being a wimp. How about Warm, Intelligent, Magnificent, Person? Any other suggestions?

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Friendship

I am doing some journal writing most days lately. It is a really insightful activity. I set myself the goal of writing around 500 words a day. Most days I don’t really feel like writing but do it anyway.

It brings me new awareness about my life. Just recently I have thought and written about how important friends are. Not just now, but in the future. My husband and I live a long way from my siblings and both parents have passed away thus making a network of friends even more important.

Also, I want my sons to enjoy their lives and families and not have to be concerned about me as I get older. I want to be part of their lives but also want my independence.  Once again, hopefully friends will play an important role in my life.

I think Epicurus was on to something with this quote:

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In search of the elusive Western Hooded Plover

Still no sign of this elusive creature however it is fun looking.

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It wasn’t without excitement though!

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I spotted these fishermen on the shore when I arrived and saw them bring in a big fish just as I was leaving. They didn’t know I was behind them and they were really excited – jumping up and down and using the F word prolifically. I think they were a bit embarrassed when I asked if I could take their photo :-).

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We just got home before a big downpour of rain. Timed it perfectly.

Some wisdom about negative feelings …

Another gem from the School of Practical Philosophy: All negative feelings are the result of our habitual response to events and people who are not the way we want them to be.

I have been testing out the above quote on some real life situations and to date it is 100% correct.

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An old friend once suggested that I became unhappy when life didn’t follow the script I had in my head. So true.

I need to be aware of this tendency and just acknowledge the negative feelings but not hook into them and then the feelings will not linger.

That has to be a good thing 🙂.

Things I thought I knew – part 1 – Time zones

I am always a bit confused when Daylight Saving comes into play in Australia but I really love the way Ruth from Tasmania describes it in her blog http://www.ruthsarc.com

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There are a few things about Australia that I thought I knew, but I had not fully grasped until I moved here. (Apologies to all Aussie readers)

Time zones
Australia is a huge country, so has three time zones.

AEST – Australian Eastern Standard Time.
Queensland, New South Wales, Australian Capital Territory, Victoria and Tasmania.

ACST – Australian Central Standard Time.
Northern Territory and South Australia.

AWST – Australian Standard Western Time.
Western Australia.

Before this standardization in the 1890’s, each local city or town was free to determine its own local time.

So far, so good.
But then it gets quirky. International time zones are usually at one hour intervals.
Here, Central time is only half an hour different to Eastern time.

So when it is 10am in QLD, NSW, ACT, VIC, and TAS …
It is 9.30am in NT and SA
And 8am in WA

Ok, I get…

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A holy man and a snake with a bad attitude.

I am enjoying some lessons with the School of Practical Philosophy online. The story below was provided for study.  Enjoy and see what you make of it :-).

    Once there was a snake with a rather bad attitude. The small village near where the snake lived was very fearful of this snake because he would strike without warning and devour its prey. It was known to eat hens, dogs, and even big animals like cows. However, what was most upsetting to the villagers was that the snake had begun to eat their children. The villagers gathered at the edge of the field, and with drumming and shouting, and sticks and stones, and made up their minds to find the snake and to kill it.

A holy man came upon this loud and angry crowd and asked, “What is all this commotion?” The villagers told him of the snake’s villainy. The holy man asked, “If I make this snake stop doing these evil deeds, will you spare his life?” The villagers reluctantly agreed to give the snake – and the holy man – one chance. The holy man entered the field and commanded the snake to come to him. “What issss it?” the snake hissed. The holy man’s words were simple: “Enough! There is no need for this. There is plenty of food without eating the villager’s children or their animals.” The holy man spoke with kindness and authority and the snake knew his words to be true. He nodded in agreement and slithered away.

It was not long before the villagers discovered that the snake would not harm them. They were grateful, but some of the villagers in their anger and hurt over what had been done, began to beat the snake with sticks and stones. The abuse continued until he couldn’t take no more and hid underneath a large rock, determined not to break its word to the holy man. But he said to himself, “Why is this happening to me? I followed the holy man’s words.” Soon the fearful snake was near death from the beatings and the lack of food.

One day, he heard the footsteps of the holy man and with his last bit of strength crawled out to meet him on the path. The holy man, seeing how terribly beaten and sickly the snake looked, asked, “What has happened to you?” The snake told the story of the beatings and torment and how for days it had hidden underneath a rock to protect itself.

The holy man stood silently shaking his head. “Oh, foolish snake,” he said. I told you not to bite but I did not tell you not to hiss.”  With this the snake understood and slithered away.

Source: I believe the story can be found in In the Land of Difficult People: 24 Timeless Tales Reveal How to Tame Beasts by Terrence L. GARGIULO, Gini Graham SCOTT. I am unsure of its origins.

Weekly Photo Challenge: Happy Space

My china cabinet next to my arm-chair is a happy space. It houses many gifts and treasures and I enjoy just standing by or sitting next to it and enjoying the contents. Many of them ornamental only but they are precious to me and bring me happiness.