What do love and economics have in common?

Just recently while looking through some old documents I found my high school reports. I was surprised to see that I got top of my class in economics. I did enjoy the subject but didn’t pursue it any further beyond school.

Then today I was thinking about my Mum who passed away ten years ago. Over the years I tried to demonstrate my love and appreciation of her. Did I succeed in showing my love for her? I will never really know.

Then I got to thinking that love (as well as economics) responds to supply and demand to some degree. I tried to show my love through my words, gifts and time spent with her. That is what makes me feel loved.

Have you ever come across a book called “The Five Love Languages” by Dr Gary Chapman? The five languages are very briefly described as follows:

  • Words of affirmation
  • Quality time
  • Receiving gifts
  • Acts of service
  • Physical touch.

The book suggests that if we know the other’s love language we can learn to say and do the right things to make the special someone feel loved.

When we randomly respond to people by doing and saying what we ourselves want to hear and receive we may just miss the point.

Just with supply and demand in the economy we can be more successful if we are in tune with what our loved ones desire. Now I don’t claim to have a handle on this but thinking about it helped me see where relationships break down and misunderstandings can occur.

We mean well and love as best as we can and hopefully our good intentions are recognised.

flowers from Tom 008 (Copy)

 

 

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12 thoughts on “What do love and economics have in common?

    • Thanks Nancy. I now remember reading your post. I could have included the link in my post but I only thought of it afterwards. I did the quiz and came up with Quality Time. That sounds pretty right for me :).

      • Same here! Quality Time all the way!

        When I went looking for the post, I was amazed to find that I had posted it 5 years ago! 5 years! How Quality Time flies! ❤

  1. Good post and I like the book with the five points. I’ve studied economics too, but did not think how it’s related to love, now that I’ve read your version, it makes a lot of sense Rainee. 🙂

  2. I have read this book and in some ways (not all) does point out a disconnect between my ex-husband and myself in that his love language was very much giving gifts and mine was doing service. Neither of those were right or wrong, just different. I think we both would have wanted quality time together but it wasn’t enough when that disconnect happened. As I said there were other things involved but this difference was indeed there.

    • I agree that there isn’t a single book that has all the answers. I found the Myers Briggs Typology helpful when my first marriage broke up. It helped me see the dynamics much more clearly.

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