On Gratitude

I am doing a short course titled “Poetry Writing for Fun” through my local U3A. This week we were asked to write something using personification and repetition. Here is my attempt:

I am Gratitude

I gave her the ocean –

She wants bigger waves.

I gave her good health –

She says she’s bored.

I gave her friends –

She asks for more.

I gave her love –

She seeks perfection.

I gave her peace and quiet –

She longs for the City lights.

If only she would know me –

She would have it all.

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I watched an amazing film today at the CinefestOz Festival in Busselton. Please check out the link to learn more about the Festival that finished today.

The movie, The Song Keepers, was recently shown at the Melbourne International Film Festival.

From the website:

 

I found it very moving and had lots of laughs as well. I have lived and worked in Aboriginal communities in remote parts of Australia and these women in the movie reminded me of those I knew. Just as the Hermannsburg Mission is part of their story I realised that my  time spent in these communities are part of MY story and I feel much enriched by the experience.

The Trailer for the movie is below.

 

 

 

 

Unhelpful Thinking Styles

Lately I keep catching myself thinking about some unpleasant things from the past (I am sure we all have them). The other day I objectively looked at it and realised that my thoughts were 40 years in the past! I keep reminding myself to look forward and not backwards. Even better if I can spend my time in the present moment.

Last Semester I ran a course for U3A called Retired:Now What? As part of that course we looked at unhelpful thinking styles by looking at and thinking about a resource I found online. Click HERE for a link to the site and for more information.

I identified that recently I am personalising anything and everything and thinking it is my fault. I sometimes joke to friends about the extremes I take this to –  e.g. conflict in the Middle East!

The point is that I have identified this recent pattern and can be on the alert when these unhelpful thoughts invade my thinking and choose to think differently!

The eyes have it!

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I had laser eye surgery yesterday.

My eyesight had deteriorated quite a lot recently and was making it hard for me to read – especially on my  computer. Initially I was to wait until October to get in to see an eye specialist. Fortunately there was a cancellation and I had an appointment yesterday with a visiting (to the region) specialist.

I was diagnosed with glaucoma and cataracts in my early fifties. I was not impressed. These things only happy to OLD people! The cataracts were removed and my eyesight was near perfect afterwards meaning I didn’t need to wear my glasses after many years of being very short sighted.

Anyway, the long and short of it is that I can see much better today and I greatly appreciate the science that produced the technology to correct my vision without having to even touch my eyes!

Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)

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There is so much pressure for us to get involved in stuff. I find it all the time. I think it is about time I accepted that I like my life the way it is!

I am surrounded by people who are always off on holidays. Normal conversation involves talking about where you have been and where you are going next. I feel a bit inadequate not being able to contribute.

I am not into sport either – or the theatre. I am happy to stay home and watch some good programs on Netflix, read good novels and the like.

Perhaps it is in part due to be an introvert. I can spend hours researching obscure topics of interest.

So I think in future I will remind myself it is okay to have a small life – as long as I am happy with it the way it is. No problem with other people having busy lives if that is what makes them happy!

 

An interview with Lyn Murfitt, Colour Consultant (on retirement)

I recently posted this interview on my Transitioning to Retirement blog and decided to share it here as well :).

Lyn Interview

Lyn, what does the word retirement mean to you?

BOREDOM! I love working, simply because it is so stimulating for my brain, and it certainly gets my creative juices going!  There is always an amazing experience or lesson to be learned each and every day!

What strategies have you used in transitioning from one phase of your life to the next?

Certainly staying in the workforce and working less hours. However, the remaining free days have allowed me to follow my passion in Body & Style Consulting. Assisting many women to feel more confident in themselves, and to feel less stressed about their appearance and body shape.  This gives me a sense of achievement and happiness in being able to help other women to realize their full potential, to work around the shape they are and to spend less time in agonizing about their appearance.

Exercise is very important to me also. It refreshes me daily to walk in the fresh air, thank the Universe for everything I have, keeps me positive and grateful for the life I have been blessed with!

Tell me about your Image Consultancy business?

This passion of mine came about 35 years ago, when I was employed as a Fashion Consultant with Liz Davenport.

Colour Analysis was an important factor when women were shopping with me. I saw so many mistakes being made with their choices; wrong necklines, lengths and styles that were not suitable for their body shapes. So I studied these factors and did many courses, especially the colour aspect, as that really ‘sets the stage’. Now I consult in Busselton and enjoy every moment of it!  Sharing my  knowledge is a large part of the process.

What drives you to want to help women be the best they can be?

I think the look on their faces when they have done a Colour Consult, or Body & Style, or even had a Closet Audit in their own home.  It really is an ‘ooh aah’ experience, and their pleasure and excitement certainly fulfills me.

Usually I make special friends out of my consultations, as it is a ‘personal journey’ into exploring working around the shape they are and not trying to CHANGE them.

What wisdom would you pass on to other women as they reach retirement age and beyond?

To attract positive people into your life, to make things happen, to join different clubs and organizations. This opens up a whole new world of experiences for you.  Don’t sit back and wait for it to HAPPEN!  Whatever your taste is …BOOK CLUB, SPORTING ACTIVITIES, CHARITY WORK, TRAVEL…….there is so much on offer out there! Read the LOCAL PAPER, that’s how I got started!

Now is the time for YOU!!

Anything else you would like to tell us about yourself?

CURRENTLY, I am ‘decluttering’ my life, and it is so UPLIFTING.  Also, it helps me to remember so many AMAZING POSITIVE things I have done and experienced.  Dare I say, it is tempting me to WRITE about my life, as many people do in later years when they have the time.

It is so enriching, even the sad and silly times.  It is always about GROWTH, and we NEVER STOP developing. There is always a SURPRISE around every corner!  Sometimes a CHALLENGE …..ONWARD INTO FOREVER!!

Thanks so much Lyn. We look forward to reading your book down the track!

Ouch! That hurt!

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I had an aha! moment today.

Ever since giving up full time work I have tried out volunteering with the idea that I am offering a service to my community (will all the feel-good stuff that goes along with it).

I have experienced many false starts and have been a little puzzled as to why it didn’t turn out as I hoped it would.

Just recently I have offered my services to another group and gave them a copy of my resume to demonstrate what areas I could be of use.

I received a request to do a job and was very conscious about doing it well. It was then that I realised that I am not truly offering them a service. I am asking them to provide a service to me where I can feel skilled and capable.

I saw it more as a transaction with the emphasis more on what was in it for me!

As I said before, Ouch! But at least I can be honest with myself about it now and hopefully the community group will benefit as well.

 

Old photos and an old song …

I must be feeling nostalgic. I was looking for an old photo today – one of me on my brother’s shoulders – I was terrified at the time. I couldn’t find it but, as happens with photos, I got caught up in looking at photos at my parents’ home when my children were little. It was always such a busy place with people coming and going – the kettle was always on!

My parents had fifteen grandchildren and most of them lived close by. I left home when I was seventeen and wasn’t able to visit as often as I would have liked. My Mum was an amazing grandma (considering she worked full time as a nurse as well) and really loved each and every one of her grandchildren and later, great grandchildren. Here are a few photos that give a bit of a feel to what it was like at “Nan and Pops” place …

What my grandparents told me …

Grandpa and Grandma

Grandpa and Grandma

I was thinking about my grandparents this morning and some of the things they told me when I was little – and I believed them!

Consider the following:

  • Don’t pull faces because, if the wind changes, it will stay like that forever.
  • Grandpa always insisted on walking closest to the curb. He said that a gentleman should be willing to take the splashes from the puddles in the road.
  • Grandma said she couldn’t go to the swimming pool because it would overflow if she jumped in.
  • They both said they couldn’t go to church because the roof would fall it (an old excuse :-))
  • Grandpa always insisted it was very rude to wear a hat in the house, unless of course you were a lady.
  • Grandma treated my gifts of jewellery from the lolly shop as though they really were very valuable.
  • I am sure there are many more gems of wisdom they imparted over the years.

Grandpa (1884 – 1969) married Grandma (1889 – 1983) in 1911 in Kerang, Victoria and went on to have eight children – one of whom was my father. We lived next door to them for many years and I spent a lot of time with them and have fond memories.

I can’t help but wonder what they would make of our world today.