A poem from my past

Cover of "The Consolations of Philosophy&...

Cover of The Consolations of Philosophy

 I wrote this poem in 1986. I decided to share it through my blog today. I would love to start writing poetry again. Sometimes it is a vehicle for expressing feelings that are difficult to write about. This poem has no title.

Your love, so new and fresh and giving

Came to me

Gave me a reason for living

What joy, ecstasy…

But now, gloom…

The sky is grey, my heart aches

It twists within me

What pain, sorrow…

In desperation I ask why?

Time and time again I cry

I get angry and curse you

Then sob and desperately want you.

But now it is over

Energy is all gone

No longer have I a reason to live

I died within.

(Lorraine 1986)

Isn’t it amazing the effect that love and loss has upon us. Surprisingly though, we come back for more. I can recommend reading a book by Alain De Botton, called The Consolations of Philosophy. He talks about many philosophers but one in particular really spoke to me about the types of emotions expressed in my poem above. The philosopher is Arthur Schopenhauer and he was born in Danzic in 1788 and died in 1860.

Schopenhauer helped me to understand the evolutionary power of love and attraction and how it is so important for the continuation of our species. He says we should not be surprised at the enormity of our feelings of love and joy but also of the pain that comes from lost love.

Knowing that these emotions are all part of being human, makes them a little easier to accept.

All good wishes


Philosophy for every day

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Philosophy – the study of the principles underlying conduct, thought and the nature of the universe

Wisdom – the ability to use knowledge; sound judgement

(Websters Universal English Dictionary)

I love to read about the great philosophers: Socrates, Plato,  Schopenhauer and Epicurus are some of my favourites. I find it really refreshing to read about their insights and perspectives and I gain new ways of seeing the world and my fellow citizens. Reading philosophy was a life changing experience for me – a positive change.  Some of their insights about the human condition are eternal and they attempt to answer some of the difficult questions in life.

I love learning and I love wisdom. I often gain little gems of wisdom from other bloggers and hopefully something I say may be useful to other bloggers in return. I started my blog purely to practise my writing skills, however it has become so much more to me. I have had a fairly interesting life so far, and I really value being able to communicate with other bloggers and share some of my life experience.

Today I would like to share some sayings and ideas that have helped me over the years. Some are deep and others are light-hearted.

  • don’t complain and don’t explain – I saw this on a poster once and have always remembered it
  • the Serenity Prayer is an excellent philosophy as a foundation for life and is relevant in most situations
  • don’t talk about religion, politics and health matters to people you don’t know very well – they can be explosive, embarrassing and conversation stoppers
  • gratification usually follows hard work and perseverance
  • never rely on technology alone with your friends – friendships can be lost over technical communication failure
  • I can’t eat a few almonds or a few pieces of crystallised ginger – it is all or nothing for me with these two foods
  • smiling at people breaks down a lot of barriers even in multicultural situations. Everyone understands a smile.
  • enforce some compulsory savings – I always make sure some money is put aside before I ever get my hands on it
  • no-one is ever entirely good or entirely bad – most of us a somewhere in the middle
  • another saying – don’t throw your pearls before the swine – to me this means to be careful with sharing personal information as some people will not respect it
  • a practical tip – buy a packet of several nail files and keep one in the following places: your purse; your handbag; your office; your bathroom; your car; your bedside table etc. They are not expensive so why are they never around when you need one?
  • do stuff when you first see that it needs doing – this becomes a habit and it means things don’t build up into really BIG tasks
  • live and let live – respect other people’s right to think and act differently than you do
  • remember that whatever you are going through right now, it will pass, given time
  • try to remember people’s birthdays as it means a lot to many of us. I forgot a friend’s 50th birthday recently and I can’t undo that

I hope that you will share some of the sayings that help you in your everyday life. It may be something that I really need to hear today 🙂


Perhaps love…

Picture from Arthur Schopenhauer

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Is the old saying true…”It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”? I have always held that to be true. A life without the love of another can be very lonely.

I have been in love a few times in my life and at times the love was lost. It was painful in the aftermath. In reading “The Consolations of Philosophy” by Alain de Botton, I discovered Arthur Schopenhauer who was born in 1788. His mother is said to have complained of  “…her son’s passion for pondering on human misery”.

It was when I read about Schopenhauer that I came to understand a little bit more about love and suffering. He asks why we are so shocked and pained by a broken heart when really the survival of our species is dependent on us falling in love and reproducing. This is no small quest and it helped me to see what an enormous drive that the need for love and partnership  is and yes, why we are so hurt when it doesn’t work out.

I have been through times in my life when I thought I would never love anyone ever again. It was just too hard, too painful and too overwhelmingly disturbing.

However, I did find love again and I am so very thankful for the experience – even though there is the risk that one day I may face loss again!

To love and be loved is worth the risk!