Sometimes I find life overwhelming. I don’t think I am alone in that experience! Just thought I would put together a list of some easy things to remember when feeling stressed/depressed etc.
Remember there are some things in my control and others are not (inspired by the Stoics)
Remember that it is not things that upset us but our beliefs/judgements about them (Stoics)
Be grateful for life, health and the many good things in my life
Be in the moment, as in “when doing the dishes, just do the dishes”
I sometimes break the day down to hours or minutes e.g. “for the next hour I will shower and make my bed” I can do more if I want to but the goal is to just get one or two things done. (works for me).
I try to remember that others are fighting their own internal battles (we don’t know what it is like to be them) so try to be compassionate and try to see where they are coming from.
I find something to do that lightens my mood – I love taking photos of flowers or editing photos so I can set up a small project (go out to the garden and snap away and them come inside and edit the photos) and it can help me lift my mood.
Listen to a podcast. I am currently into learning about Stoicism and there are heaps of podcasts and YouTube video to watch or listen to.
If every thought in my head is coming out bleak I need to consider it might be my thinking that is out of kilter and not the rest of the universe!
Sometimes I write in my journal and maybe do a mind map (in my journal) to get a more objective picture of where my life and thoughts are at the moment. See what I can change and what I can’t.
I try to resist making big decisions when stressed. I sometimes want to do something straight away but encourage myself to review the idea at a later date – maybe three months, depending on the issue.
If all else fails, I go and have a rest for a while. Often I feel better afterwards!
I sometimes find that depression sneaks up on me. I have lots of strategies for working around it (diet, exercise, pills, positive psychology etc) but sometimes it wins. Today was one of those days.
I caught myself being grumpy when reaching for my ‘after-dinner’ orange that I have everyday that we have oranges in the house. I looked at the orange and thought how nice it looked. I remembered living in a remote community in the Northern Territory of Australia and we had no access to fresh fruit at the time. That was when I realised that oranges are my favourite fruit. We had to order food about six weeks in advance and the grocery order came by barge from Northern Queensland (quite a distance away).
I held the orange in my hand, smelled it, felt the texture and felt very grateful for it. I then proceeded to eat it while savouring the taste! It didn’t cure my depression but it was a circuit breaker letting some light in!
Family Picture (On The Balcony) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
My new book is very exciting! Do you know how it is when you read something that really creates a shift in your thinking? I have read most of this author’s books and so I was delighted to find a new one to download to my Kindle.
Flourishby well known and respected psychologist, Martin Seligman was released on February 7, 2012. In the Preface he says,“This book will help you flourish.” Seligman’s new theory is applicable not just for individuals but for communities, schools, the workforce, the economy…
A simple activity that I have incorporated into my day is the “What went well?” exercise. At the end of each day I reflect on my day and name three things that went well. At first it took me a little while to come up with three things but now it is getting easier and I am finding more and more experiences I can add to my list. It makes me realise that even if I have been a bit down or grumpy, there are still lots of positive things happening and this exercise is making me more aware of the good things in my life!
Some time ago I saw a wonderful poster of a woman with the caption, “I know I am intelligent, I want you to say I am beautiful!” So at last my wish has come true – I received a Beautiful Blogger Award from http://imexcited.wordpress.com! How wonderful to be considered worthy of this award. Thanks so much imexcited!
I would now like to nominate the following for the Beautiful Blogger Award: