I saw this quote on Facebook and I think it suggests a well balanced approach to life.
However, I haven’t always followed this guidance and sometimes I reaped the negative consequences the quote suggests.
I have tended to do almost anything for peace and harmony in my life but now I realise I mustn’t lose myself in the process.
Some lessons take a life time to learn.
I hope I am not being naive in posting it on my blog!
I have heard the following expression at various times in my life. Are you familiar with it?
” Whatever or whoever is in front of you is your teacher.”
It is not always easy to remember this when I am in an uncomfortable or awkward situation. Sometimes I might get caught with someone talking about things I don’t believe in. I try to stay silent and listen – after all, they may have some greater insight into the issue than I do.
Or maybe someone doesn’t turn up on time when I am on a tight schedule. Maybe I need to learn patience or that some things are more important than punctuality.
What about when it is a really tough situation and I don’t feel like learning? The word compassion (for myself and the other person/s) comes to mind plus the ability to distance myself from the situation and try to be objective.
Not an easy thing to do, however I acknowledge there are still plenty of lessons for me to learn in life and I try to remain open to them. Just because I am in my sixth decade doesn’t mean I can put my feet up and relax! And yes, sometimes I get it wrong.
I like to find image quotes online that capture how I am feeling. I came across this one this evening. I often feel like this – some days more than others!
I have this vague feeling that I missed out on getting the rule book handed out at birth :-). At least today I can accept that is just how I am and not fret about it too much.
I was at a meeting the other day and I went along with the attitude of wanting to get involved. I was taken aback by the chair of the meeting – he couldn’t seem to notice I was there. I have grappled with this and wondered whether I was having an issue with my ego (wanting to be noticed etc) and I felt quite annoyed.
I offered to take on a significant and time-consuming role for the group (setting up and administering a new Facebook Group) but I still felt invisible to our group leader. I found the image below and it was a good reminder to me that my ability doesn’t depend on someone else being able to see it.
It has been an interesting year in dealing with purchases and repairs.
1. Washer/dryer was four years old and stopped working properly. Fortunately I had an extended warranty and was given a full refund and then purchased a new washer and dryer.
2. Vacuum cleaner stopped working – out of warranty. I rang the interstate company for advice and they were able to tell me how to reset its computer settings (on a vacuum cleaner?) and it worked. Happy customer.
3. Ordered a bed in October. The company failed to deliver on time. They kept getting my order confused. Last week they rang to say it arrived but later rang to say it was the wrong size. New one coming tomorrow. Paid the balance today only to discover the store had totally misunderstood what I wanted.
We could go back to base and start again – no, that had no appeal. I could ask for my money back, but that didn’t appeal either. I could have argued the point – surely I am the most qualified to know what I ordered (the manager had no concept of the customer always being right!)
I agreed to take the alternative bed and it should be delivered on Wednesday. I wonder how I could have dealt with this better. Any suggestions?
Some days I worry about what might go wrong and then I remember that I cannot control everything around me. Even when I plan everything perfectly there is usually something that can throw me off course. When I remind myself of the limits on what I can control, I am able to let go, be more relaxed, and go with the flow.
Today I spoke with two people with situations way beyond their control. The first person is a man I met for the first time. He told me about his adult daughter suffering a serious illness and her need to move permanently to the other side of the country to receive specialist medical treatment. The outlook is not good. I commented that sometimes life doesn’t turn out like we expect it to.
About an hour later I was talking to a business owner and asked if she was ready for the busy tourist season nearly upon us. She told me how a critical part of equipment has broken down and is unable to be fixed in time to reap the rewards of the tourist season. It will have a major impact on the viability of her business. She was close to tears as she shared this with me. Once again I commented about life not turning out as we expect it to.
I was moved by these two people and the honest sharing of their personal experiences. It also reminded me to be grateful and not to stress when life doesn’t follow my own personal script.
I have been reflecting on the ingredients for a good life – what does it take? My thoughts went to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs as in the diagram below.
In reading about it on Wikipedia I found there is a new theory that has overtaken Maslow’s and it is the Attachment Theory.
I am interested in finding out some more about that, but not tonight 🙂
I did a Google search on well-being and also found these diagrams that attempt to sum up what it takes to experience well-being.
What do you think of them and do you have any alternative strategies to achieve well-being?
I find it easy to become discouraged by so much bad news every where we look. For the next 24 hours I will focus on the many good things and people there are in the world 🙂
We had some friends stay over for the weekend and it was lovely chatting and catching up on the news.
I found myself saying more than once, …Ha, so I am not the only one who does that(thinks that/fears that etc.).
It occurred to me how valuable it is to have friends where we can share these inconsequential things and realise we all have much the same fears, hopes, dreams etc. It is reassuring that whatever our experiences in life might be, it is likely shared by many.
Lake Ballard near Menzies
Perhaps this is the basis for our friendships.
NB The photo was taken by me at Lake Ballard (a dry salt lake) in a remote area north of Kalgoorlie in Western Australia. The sculpture was created by well known sculptor Antony Gormley from the UK.
I have been absent from WordPress in recent weeks as I worked on finishing my unit of study with Edith Cowan University online. The unit is Authorship and Publication. The main submission for assessment is my ebook, Beyond the Crossing.
As it is my first short story I decided to make it available as a free ebook to anyone who would like to read it.
With assignments now completed, I can start preparing for my trip to Victoria on Saturday. I am staying with my son, daughter-in-law and two grandsons for a week. After that I am spending a couple of days in Melbourne with my two sisters. Click on the link below to go to the page where you can download a copy.
Click HERE to go to Beyond the Crossing.
Little girl and dead crocodile
Barge Northern Territory
Numbulwar from the air.
Swimming in the billabong
A wild buffallo in the bushes
Fitzroy Crossing Store
Sunset at the Crossing
Baobab Tree near the Crossing
The actual Crossing
Fitzroy River in flood